3 Things To Remember When You Start To OverThink

So I am the overthinking queen. Pretty much every scenerio will run through my head if I am A.) Left Alone B.) Upset C.) In a quiet enough place to think or D.) Recently in a fight or any other bad thing. I over think about a lot of stuff...and I mean a lot. If you also over think you're going to really get this post.

When I over think, it's never really good thoughts, it's 97.6% of the time bad ones. When I first started my relationship and my boyfriend didn't text me I'd think it was because I said something wrong or I was annoying him, I'd end up saying im sorry if im bothering you which would start an argument etc because, I never really was (lol). Sometimes I thought maybe he was hurt or busy, and sometimes I got so bad I was thinking he was talking to some other girl etc. My thoughts can go from good to bad to worse in a matter of seconds and this is the worst habit a person can come across.

What I wanna do is give some of those over thinkers out there a few tipnotes that are actually really really seriously important. So here goes:

#1.) Realize it's not even possible. This is one of the biggest ones which is why it's #1. A lot of my thoughts were pretty bad when I over think. In general these thoughts were close to zero chance. A lot of them were nearly impossible but if I thought to much it seemed so much more possible in my head.

#2.) Realize you're better than it. Sometimes my bad thoughts were triggered to me. Thinking people would think really bad thoughts about me, my clothes, my laugh, my smile, my attitude, whatever. You have no idea how many times in the past, and even this week i've told people like my bf etc "I know it's stupid," "I know it's ugly," and "I'm sorry ____". I'm a pretty self conscious person sometimes and it causes me to really over think things like my worth, my beauty, my talents and even just plain me.

#3.) Realize it's not even happening yet. When people tell me about a future event like a hospital visit, a test, a vacation, a seperation, really any "possibility" it scares me. If someone says, "I might be leaving." I literally look 2,3, even 5 years ahead to what happens if that might actually happens. I think about how I'll handle them being gone, what I'd do knowing all we ever thought was out the window. I majorly thought out of propertion. Point is, if they tell you that will happen a day, a week or a month ahead, just enjoy the time you're in then and don't push the subject or worry to much. It's much better to enjoy the current time and love or hang with that person then spend the entire time worrying and then crying and missing then if it does really happen.

I really hope you got something out of this and maybe you can relate. Overthinking is not a good or "enjoyable" thing trust me I know but maybe now when it happens you'll remember some of my tips and use them to just keep calm and keep a cool head when it starts to happen. Good luck and if you ever need a friend im here! (loveneedlaughlive@gmail.com) I love you guys and yeah that's it guys Love ~Rose <3.